All of life is very simply Love or Fear. Simple.
I first heard this concept around the age of 30. I quickly knew it to be true because the Universe (God) told me over and over! I know the Universal truths because they arrive in my life multiple times and in multiple ways. I read this in a book, then another book, then heard it from a friend, and then heard it on TV. Today, I continue to be reminded! Just as I continually remind my children to pick up their shoes (such a simple task in my eyes), I am continually reminded of the simplicity of Love and Fear (such a simple task for God).
My recent pregnancy was tough on my body, my mind, and my family. Although large challenges in life often seem complicated with intricate details, I can simply say – FEAR. Underlying fears of having another baby….6 children…step siblings….half siblings….a Teen and diapers….were the absolute root cause of my prego challenges! God doesn’t want us in pain!!! We all know the obstacles we face are simply to make us stronger through life lessons, HOWEVER, also recognize the obstacles we face are of our OWN creation! The Universe desired my pregnancy to be wonderful, enjoyable, magical! MY fears caused a different outcome. The good news was my previous life lessons and my understanding of Universal Love (God’s love) allowed me to make continual conscious choices of dealing with the physical challenges because I knew…that I knew, that I knew…all would be fine and Love would prevail! This baby was SO VERY meant to be in our lives at the exact moment she arrived. Knowing this, we gave her the name Lauryl Jennae, meaning “Victorious” and “God has answered.”
I’ve recently started a Love Journal that has opened my eyes tremendously!! When I face daily challenges (most usually with kids), I know if the challenge is on my mind continually, I am making a mistake. I am reacting out of fear in some way. I break my journal entries into three sections: Situation, Reaction of Fear, and Action of Love. Forcing myself to come up with an “Action of Love” in all situations has made immense improvement in the way I feel about any situation- immediately!
Through this process, I’ve realized the use of guilt in my life…YES, I said the USE of GUILT. Guilt, that horrible 5 letter word all mothers know well. We encourage each other to get rid of it, to realize we aren’t perfect, and to not be so harsh on ourselves. I say, “WHATEVER”!!! Guilt is a VERY useful tool for me! If I feel guilt, I have said or done something – out loud or in my mind – that I do not agree with to the core of my being. The core of being is purely, simply, and completely made of Love. When my reactions to things do not simply show Love, I feel guilt. Therefore, my personal red flag is often guilt. (When I feel guilt over simple things like a messy house, I stop to realize my Fear of not having control is overriding my Love of not needing control!) My other red flags include frustration, anger, and feeling physically sick. When I see a red flag…I see a wonderful opportunity to journal and start again.
Fresh starts are often the BEST gift the Universe gives me!!!!!
In the past month alone, I have realized my discouragement from a baby’s colicky cries was based on my [ridiculous] fear it would never end and my fear I couldn’t help stop her pain. After I recognized the fear, I chose to act in love and my tolerance increased ten-fold!
My frustration with a 7 year old not doing what I asked, at the moment I asked it, was also based in fear. I feared she would not respect my authority and problems would increase in the future. Once I recognized this fear and refocused with pure love the next day, I realized she was so concerned with completing her list of tasks well, she couldn’t focus on one thing at a time. Her confusion was coming across as disrespect.
My almost-teenager was making a choice I did not agree with and when my gut reaction was frustration, she reacted and the situation catapulted to a whole new level. (I know parents of teens SO get this) My fear of her making choices I do not condone masked the understanding of her being on her own life path. She has a right to create her own future. I am to guide and love her, not control her!
I now choose to live a life of Conscious Love
and it is SO much easier (and enjoyable)!
Funny, how every subject I write about goes right back to the title of my blog, “Living by Heart’s Intent”. I guess God has been engraving this on my soul for much longer than I realized. Live by Love and Love alone!
Use Fear to find Love. ;)
